Why I wanted to start ANOTHER pregnancy blog
I am not pregnant yet, but it is in the future works. Not like a…I want to get pregnant in August…like some of my friends have said. But like a…at some point I want a small human and I think it would be cool to create one myself, and I know my marital partner and I are at the ”right” life stage to make that happen.
So I have been doing my research. And, as most of you readers know, a lot of what comes up is a fuckload of pregnancy/parenting blogs. So why start another one? Most of these blogs are drenched in pink (a color I have avoided since the third grade, except for a recent development to dye my hair the bi-flag colors for pride fest), and these blogs seem like they aren’t telling the full story. This is true of anyone I talk to as well (not the drenched in pink part). I’ve heard your feet will grow, your boobs will get righteously big, and there is some morning sickness, the cutest word for vomiting I have ever heard. And that is just it, everything is presented like it is going to be a beautiful stage of life, you get pregnancy glow, you get a little morning sickness, and then nine months later, you have the best and most terrifying decision of your life in your arms.
I call bullshit. First of all, I JUST LEARNED that it is 40 weeks starting at the time of the period before you conceive. So it is literally not even just nine months… But also the occasional friend who has been pregnant will let slip things like: trying to get pregnant can be just a traumatic as a miscarriage, miscarriages are very common but no one talks about them, you are going to pee your pants every time you laugh, etc. I don’t know why all of this shit is taboo to talk about, and I want to use my experience to be very, very vocal.
Roe V Wade
You knew this was going to come up on a pregnancy blog. With the overturn, I feel it is incredibly important to talk about EXACTLY what being pregnant is like. Keeping the truth behind pregnancy taboo is a way for the patriarchy to “keep women in the kitchen” as it were. I am %1000 pro-choice, and I understand that I will be making the CHOICE to be pregnant, as it is any person’s choice not to be. The overturn is what helped spur me to start this blog. Women make the choice to be pregnant or not without all the facts.
I want to make it completely clear what pregnancy is like. If exactly what people go through to create another human is made more clear, maybe it will have an effect on people who are, let’s face it, pro-birth. I have watched footage (ok tik-toks) on making people aware of how severe period pains can be. In case you didn’t know, period pains can be as painful as a heart attack, and they are supposed to happen every month. Imagine having a heart attack every month from ten-ish years old to fifty-ish. Forty years of monthly heart attacks. And those happen when you don’t get pregnant! Also I say supposedly every month, because we all know that shit aint 28 weeks apart…
Anyway, I just feel like if people knew how hard it is to be pregnant, then maybe they wouldn’t force women to cary. Then again, I haven’t been pregnant. Maybe it is just a light puke in the morning and exactly nine months later you have a miracle…but I doubt it.
To Do List
You are going to figure out fast that I love checklists. Or maybe you won’t, maybe I will give up on this blog right after this post. After all, I named this checklist, ”So You Wanna B An Adult,” if that tells you anything.
- Start a blog ✅
- Check credit scores ✅
- Join and use credit cards
- Debt repayment plan
- Get at joint bank account at a credit union with a high interest savings account✅
- Savings budget
- 401k, IRA, HSA budgets
- Make account transfers automatic
- Invest
- Make a baby
- Talk to realtor
- Get pre-approved for a home loan
- Ask people who have stay at home jobs for the perfect one for a homemaker
- Buy a house
- Get a stay at home job
- Have a baby
Not too many things I know…and who knows if they will happen in this order, or if they will happen, but that is what this blog is about! I hope you gain several things from this blog, some shenanigans for sure, tips about everything it takes to start a family, and all of the dirty little secrets behind making a human being that no one ever told you.